Jul. 2, 2017

He is a Person Too.

I see people treat Dian like he isn’t a person. They treat him awfully and talk about him as if he doesn’t hear. People are foolish to believe this because he is very aware of everything around him. He may not react or respond immediately but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t see or hear you.

I’ve experienced encounters with people who act like they care about Dian but they don’t treat him like a human being. They talk about him and they think that it’s okay because he doesn’t understand, he doesn’t see or hear what they really mean but I can tell you Dian is very much aware of emotions and feelings and he will know if you mean bad.

When I am upset Dian gets me a tissue and tells me to dry my eyes. When I am happy Dian smiles with me and says something funny to make me laugh. When I am angry Dian asks me “am I okay?”. When I am bored Dian asks me to go outside with him. Dian can read emotions and feelings very well, he always knows how to respond. It frustrates me that people think he doesn’t see these kind of things, they think that he lives in his bubble and doesn’t see the world. He does see the world just from a different point of view.

I understand that you can’t have the same conversation with him that you can have with another person or that you can’t give him multiple instructions or tasks to do but that doesn’t mean he see less or feels less or is less. Like I said he just does things differently. People need to stop thinking he can’t do something because he has autism and start thinking he can do something, it’ll just be done differently from what I would do because of his autism. He is very much able to do anything he sets his mind to, trust me I’ve seen him drive a boat and digger and it being his first time on them!

It breaks my heart to see a world hurt an 9 year old boy because he like to shake his hands, walk on his tiptoes and sometimes decides to lie down in the supermarket. We all respond differently to situations so why is the way he does things so wrong to people? Instead of jumping up and down and shouting, he shakes his hands when he’s excited. Instead of walking flat on his feet, he prefers to walk on his tiptoes. Instead of sitting down after the shopping is done, he believes it’s wiser to take a break in the middle and lie down, and when you think about it, that is actually very smart thinking.

I wrote this piece because recently someone who I thought cared about Dian used him to upset me and it frustrated me so much that I knew I needed to put out there how wrong it is to do this because he is a person too and he deserves to be treated like one. I know how hard it can be to understand how someone with autism functions and thinks but the most important thing to remember is to treat them how you would want to be treated. They may express their feelings and emotions differently from you but they still feel.

Freya xo